Granparents thought they were being given a peaceful Hawaiian 50th Wedding Anniversary Vacation.
Little did they know, Steve and Kelly had something more adventurous in mind. A Honeymoon / Bucket List Tour 2015 courtesy of God Speed.
Skydiving? Check Shark diving? Check Bucket List Tour? Check Leave Grandparents at house? Check Consolation attendance at Grandparent’s Wish List events? Not so much. Keep up Bully Campaign, from Hawaii, on the relatives back on the mainland with dozens and dozens of Indirect Cyber-Bully posts on Facebook? Check
The ability to take criticism well depends mostly on how secure we feel about ourselves. Yet it could hardly be said that any of us actually enjoys being criticized. For it’s a challenge to avoid feeling defensive when we experience ourselves as attacked. At such times, it’s more “natural”–or rather, more aligned with our conditioning–to go into self-protective mode. And typically, the way we choose to protect ourselves is through denying the … Continue reading →
It is the speed of communication on the Internet—not just the anonymity—that makes it such a dangerous place. Rumors that would have taken weeks to reach the public consciousness in the pre-Internet age can rouse the Twitchfork-wielding rabble in an instant.
There’s a quote attributed to psychology pioneer William James that voices the principle at work here: “there’s nothing so absurd that if you repeat it often enough, people will believe it.”
That kind of mass-repetition can now happen on social media in a matter of minutes.
The classic grandiose narcissists performs at center stage in the spotlight. (This post refers to male and female narcissists.) He/she demands your total unblinking attention. I recall a number of these individuals whom I have known personally and professionally. They grab the psychological space in a room. They regal us with stories of their perfect lives.
How often have you been psychologically accosted by a narcissistic personality? They won’t leave you alone. They are filled with stories of their latest triumphs. They talk about their superior family members who are the … Continue reading →
You probably know someone, after reading the Narcissist Check List, that will meet some, most, or all of the Criteria on this list. The Muto Family has a number of members that this could be their manifesto.
Narcissist Check List:
Two faced, putting friends and family down behind their backs.
Tendency to blame their lack of success and failures on others.
We’ve all met one at some point. A man or woman who seems to believe they are the center of the universe. Arrogant, callous and manipulative, they force the world around them to accommodate this belief.
Self-important and conceited, the narcissist exaggerates accomplishments, requires endless praise, and has an uncanny ability to quash the achievements of others. They lack empathy and don’t seem aware that you are a whole person with your own needs. In fact, you’re only a useful tool, something to extract admiration from. The narcissist believes they’re entitled to everything, including your time, your emotions and your self-esteem.
13th Attack-Defence Strategy: Claim the Part of the Victim (Steve Muto is straddling many stages of the Attack-Defense-Strategy, but his BigKahunaBully website is proof of the following…)
Following closely after ‘feigned humility’, the Attack-Defence is complete. The Family Serial Bully will have successfully redefined themselves as the victim who requires more protection, attention, understanding and forgiveness than their Target(s). The same rights that go with being the ‘favored one’. If even one Ally is willing to allow the Family Serial Bully this … Continue reading →