Big Kahuna Bully #BKB Defined

Steve Muto - Kelly Muto - Big Kahuna Bully Identity

Steve and Kelly Muto have exploded onto Social Media over the last 6 months.  What’s it all about?  It is in everyone’s best interest to reveal what all the fuss is over.

Well, it’s about Big Kahuna Bully and what it means? #BKB?  There is also #HBB (Hawaii Bound Bitches).  They got the “bitches” part right. #HBB?

Known Family Serial Bully, Steve Muto, created a fake Twitter Bully Identity @BigKahunaBully to allow him a Social Media outlet for his pathetic attempt at being a Cyber-Bully.  He is also an insanely jealous and envious person in general.  This is a feeble attempt at being a smart guy and he thinks he is operating underground and thru innuendo and passive aggressiveness.

See Steve, and his wife Kelly Muto, were invited guests to an Exotic Hawaiian Vacation being organized and planned by another faction of the family to take place after the Parents 50th Anniversary Banquet Dinner in California.  After it was learned that the Parents did not want to have a Banquet Dinner in California, the family decided instead to extend their invitation to the Parents to join along with them to Hawaii to celebrate along with them.  The dates of the trip were changed from the 18th to the 24th to accommodate the Parents to July 14th through the 21st.  Steve and his family were invited at the special request of his Parents.  Steve and Kelly were not going to be invited originally, and you can see why.  This was Steve’s Parent’s 50th Wedding Anniversary Celebration and Steve’s Mother insisted that Steve and his new family be invited.  The invitation was reluctantly extended.

Steve Muto Bully Thug

After Steve was informed that the Vacation was already being planned by other family members and was planned to be on a strict budget, well, big talkin’, big money Steve made an agreement to bank roll a larger chunk of funds for a “Top Shelf” Vacation in his own words.  This is where Kelly and Steve stuck their noses in where they did not belong and HIJACKED the entire home search and event planning for everyone.  Steve and Kelly purposefully began clouding the waters of decisions that had already been made for months.  Putting ideas into the minds of Parents about what house, what events and what Steve and Kelly were going to be doing on this, their “Honeymoon/Vacation.”  Steve stressed everyone to the point of breaking and burning and did it laughing and joking about it all the way.  The “Campaign” began.

What had been planned for over 2 years by other family just wasn’t good enough for Mrs. Kelly (Murdock) Muto.  After a lifetime of being a broke truck driver and having recently borrowed money from his family members, all of a sudden Steve has 10’s of thousands of dollars to spend on a week in Hawaii.  Gee, that’s funny, his elderly, aging, partially infirmed parents just came into, a short time ago, a huge sum of money, problem is, according to the Parents, it’s gone.  All of it.

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The Narcissist’s Dilemma: They Can Dish It Out, But . . .

Sure, the narcissist’s many defenses protect them–but at what cost?

Post published by Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on Oct 12, 2011 in Evolution of the Self

The ability to take criticism well depends mostly on how secure we feel about ourselves. Yet it could hardly be said that any of us actually enjoys being criticized. For it’s a challenge to avoid feeling defensive when we experience ourselves as attacked. At such times, it’s more “natural”–or rather, more aligned with our conditioning–to go into self-protective mode. And typically, the way we choose to protect ourselves is through denying the criticism, indignantly turning on the criticizer, or hastening to disengage from the uncomfortable situation entirely.

Such a well-nigh universal tendency is elevated almost to an art form with those afflicted with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). When criticized, narcissists show themselves woefully incapable of retaining any emotional poise, or receptivity. And it really doesn’t much matter whether the nature of that criticism is constructive or destructive. They just don’t seem to be able to take criticism, period. At the same time, these disturbed individuals demonstrate an abnormally developed capacity to criticize others (as in, “dish it out” to them).

Although narcissists don’t (or won’t) show it, Continue reading

Steve Muto Reveals Himself as “BigKahunaBully”

BIGKAHUNABULLY

Steve Muto’s Bully Alter Ego…
Kelly Muto endearingly, “My Thuggish Hubby!

Steve Muto - Kelly Muto - Big Kahuna Bully Identity

 The “BigKahunaBully” Idol from Steve Muto’s Bully Twitter Site @BigKahunaBully
Steve began posting to his Facebook Page http://facebook.com/cartrucker, as “BigKahunaBully.” February 2015


Steve Muto Bully Thug


Steve begins to reveal

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Steve Muto – Bully Long Haul Trucker?

Steve Muto a Bully Long Haul Trucker?
Yes, he is proud of the title because he filled his social media outlets with Trucks, Bully Posts and Personal Posts.

For the past several month’s Steve has been proudly displaying “His Wife, Himself and this big bright orange truck on Twitter.

Steve-Muto-Bully-Orange-Truck

Unbeknownst to most, Steve had created a Bully identity on Twitter as well.  BigKahunaBully.

Steve Muto Bully Twitter - BigKahunaBully

 @BigKahunaBully has been dismantled and is now an “I’m so innocent,” Katy Puppy Page.

Steve Muto Bully - Innocent Katy Trucker Puppy

Steve spends an enormous amount of time on the road and what better thing to do on the road than Cyber-Bully your Family.
The family has been subjected for months to the following very disturbing and frightening behaviors from Steve and Kelly Muto:

Direct Physical Behaviors and Social Media Posts including;

  • Murder and Threats of Violence
  • Extreme Aggression
  • Weapons Display
  • Rage
  • Anger
  • Hatred
  • Group / Gang Bullying
  • Innuendo
  • Character Assassination
  • Gloating
  • Relentless Daily Action and Attention

Any of these behaviors have been shown to his family to manifest themselves anywhere at anytime.  “Who is Steve today?” Continue reading

Bully Posts from the Road

Bully Posts from the Road with Steve Muto.

Steve travels this beautiful country of ours as a Long Haul Trucker.  He stops from place to place and must have quite a bit of free time on his hands to Cyber-Bully.  We can see each of these posts are from somewhere out there.  Can only stand to reason he must be Long Haul Trucking. Right?

This is just a sampling of what you can find “from the road” as one of Steve’s “Friends” on Facebook and Twitter… Continue reading

Steve Muto Bully, Keeps It Up, Won’t Stop

This is Steve Muto’s last round of Serial Family Cyber-Bully Attacks on @BigKahunaBully Twitter.

Targeting Several Family Members…

Posted June 28th, 2015.  Just won’t stop…

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 Posted June 23rd, 2015.  Just won’t stop…

Steve Muto Bully Post

The blame is all you Steve Muto Bully.  There is no one else out there doing what you’re doing to this family.


 Steve Muto Serial Family Bully Attacking New Family Member

You just can’t help yourself you very much need help.

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The House That Steve Hated

Well folks, this is the house that was found, as a diamond in the rough by the family, not Steve.  Situated on the beautiful south side of Kailua Beach, HI.  Months of filtering and searching, phone calls, late nights and long days for just the right place with just the right room count, bathroom count, separate accommodations for Steve and Kelly (if they chose) in their own house next to the main house.  It was perfect for the group that was intending on going.  Under construction, but if you could see the vision of what and where the house was going to be, it is a real gem.  It was offered to the family at a great discount due to it’s “under construction” “never-been-rented” status.

8 Bedroom, 8 Bath, 2 Full Stories Main House

Steve Muto proclaimed “I Hate It.”  “It’s too gray, it’s in a bad neighborhood, it’s under construction, it’s not right on the beach, it’s to far from the beach, it’s not on the North Shore.  Kelly says “the couch cushions are the wrong color.”  “Do we have to cross the street to get to the beach?”  Steve and Kelly pushed incessantly for a rental home on the North Shore where Kelly and Steve have Extreme Excursions arranged,  and this went on and on and on.  After the very special invitation that had been offered to the them,  for them to have even a single outrageous request was beyond reasonable.  Unbeknownst to the family, Steve, was stressing out everyone to the max, including the Parents to the point of collapse.  Let’s remember, the Parents were not supposed to be involved in the planning so as to NOT STRESS THEM OUT.  (Triangulation?)  So, what does a Bully do?  Steve and Kelly claimed they had put down a sizable non-refundable deposit and rented a home, without telling the family or working with the them, for more money, that only sleeps 8. Steve reneged on his promise to contribute dollars to his request for a “Top Shelf” Vacation and left the entire family in stunned disbelief.  Then Steve proclaimed “I knew you would wreck this vacation and blame it on me!”

Please note that this was going to be a two house for the price of one deal!
This is the deal Steve and Kelly Gas-Lit, threw away and torched his family over.

iThe Family - House Location Kailua Beach Hawaii

Located directly across the street from the Kailua Beach Park and Boat Launch, this modern rebuilt two-story home has a front main house consisting of 4 Bedrooms, 4 bathrooms, 2 kitchens, 2 living rooms, an open lounge room and a garage turned recreation room with ocean views, lanai and yard. (At the time of this listing, the garage recreation room is still being furnished.)

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The Most Anticipated Muto (Murdock) – 50th Wedding Anniversary Extravaganza

Granparents thought they were being given a peaceful Hawaiian 50th Wedding Anniversary Vacation.

Little did they know, Steve and Kelly had something more adventurous in mind. A Honeymoon / Bucket List Tour 2015 courtesy of God Speed.

Skydiving? Check
Shark diving? Check
Bucket List Tour? Check
Leave Grandparents at house? Check
Consolation attendance at Grandparent’s Wish List events?  Not so much.
Keep up Bully Campaign, from Hawaii, on the relatives back on the mainland with dozens and dozens of Indirect Cyber-Bully posts on Facebook? Check

Some posts as the one below are not so indirect.  This is cyber-bully targeted at specific family members.

Steve Muto Bully - Steve went out of his way and took family to the other relatives house to be as last ultimate rub it in.

Before moving on…

Highly disturbed Steve and Kelly Muto, Bully’s, actually went out of their way and involved their kids in his sick Bully Campaign.  Someone, deposited Steve’s step-daughters, near the doorsteps to the other relatives “house to be,” (see picture above) as a last ultimate stick-it-to-them action.  (The house is just out of the picture.) This is goes way beyond sick and twisted and shows the lengths that these Bully’s have gone for months to abuse and cause intentional emotional distress to the relatives that Steve, Kelly, Ron and Ruth claim as family.  To further illustrate this point, have a look at this post and see if this isn’t the corner of the house that never was, thanks to the Muto’s.

Starting with images below, Steve and Kelly began the Hawaii Honeymoon Phase of their Bully Campaign in typical “Selfie” in-your-face style. Continue reading

Beyond MAX Rub It In | InstaVomit

The Hawaii (Shove-your-nose-in-it-with-500-selfies) “Bucket List” of extreme sports was fulfilled by Steve Muto, Kelly Muto and her daughters this week in Hawaii.

Too bad for ‘ole Grandma and Grandpa, the Bucket List looks a little extreme for the 70+ crowd.
They must have been stranded at the house possibly cooking up some Blueberry Buckle.

What, were they watching from the house that’s not on a beach?
It’s called Waterfront, not Beachfront for those low information people.
To be a beachfront it would have to have SAND.

This must be a difficult concept for some people to grasp.

Skydiving? Shark Swimming?  Did you eat an endangered Sea Turtle or Harpoon a Whale too?

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Why People In a Bad Marriage Stay Married

At least, the reasons they give for staying married…

Steve and Kelly Muto - Why Bully's in a Bad Marriage Stay Married

 

Not infrequently, patients come to my office telling me in detail everything wrong with their marriages. These complaints are not unusual, but they are usually heart-felt. They include a whole range of misbehavior’s on the part of their spouses. Sometimes there is only one serious transgression, such as a prolonged infidelity or drug use, including alcoholism. Sometimes the list can be surprisingly long. Here are some of the things they have complained about to me, in no particular order:

  1. Violent behavior (both men and women).
  2. Prolonged or repeated absences.
  3. Infidelity.
  4. Stinginess, or profligacy.
  5. Bad temper.
  6. Selfishness.
  7. Lying repeatedly.
  8. Refusal of sex.
  9. Improper parenting behavior.
  10. Putting other family first.
  11. Use of drugs.
  12. Irresponsibility (and unreliability, including chronic lateness)
  13. Secretive behavior.
  14. Contemptuous and rude and scornful behavior.
  15. Cruelty.
  16. Betrayals, such as promising to have children, and then refusing.

By the time I am presented with such a list, usually the patients have concluded that their marriages are not worth saving. Continue reading

Muto’s – Keeping Up the Jet-Setter Appearances

The Parents of Steve Muto (Ron and Ruth Muto) are addicted to the “Jet-setter” lifestyle.

So much so, they will do practically anything, obviously, based on their actions this week, to get a free ride on their next Vacation.

Anything with a free, plane ticket, boat ride or trip on a merry-go-round.  They don’t care who they stomp on, or hurt, on their way to the airport or loading dock, watch out here they come.  They surely don’t care if they permanently damage their grand-kids, kids, in-laws. Shine it!  “Who cares about them?” Paradise awaits.

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Anonymity, Speed of Communication, and the Power of the Hive Mind

The power of the hive mind.

It is the speed of communication on the Internet—not just the anonymity—that makes it such a dangerous place. Rumors that would have taken weeks to reach the public consciousness in the pre-Internet age can rouse the Twitchfork-wielding rabble in an instant.

There’s a quote attributed to psychology pioneer William James that voices the principle at work here: “there’s nothing so absurd that if you repeat it often enough, people will believe it.”

That kind of mass-repetition can now happen on social media in a matter of minutes.

I’ve observed that once people have repeated a lie—especially an outrageous one—they become invested in it. It becomes part of their identity. Members of a “hive” that has perpetrated a falsehood or misinterpretation of facts feel a narcissistic compulsion to keep repeating it—to “prove” their own righteousness.

The same thing is true when someone commits an act of verbal cruelty, the way so many Twitterers did this week to a bestselling author. Once an individual joins in an attack on a designated victim, s/he becomes assimilated into the collective hive mind and seems to lose the ability to behave as an individual.

These real-life cyber-bully’s mimic Sci-Fi cyborgs like Star Trek’s The Borg, or Dr. Who’s Daleks and Cybermen.

This means that trying to reason with an individual member of the hive is useless. Otherwise sane people will display a complete lack of empathy—behavior that’s usually seen only in a true sociopath.

It’s as if people are saying: “I’m not really a sociopath, but I play one on Twitter.”

Steve Muto - Kelly Muto - Big Kahuna Bully Identity
@BigKahunaBully (Steve and Kelly Muto Playing Anonymous Sociopath on Twitter)

Thing is, social media is real life. Your victims are real people. You are inflicting real pain.

People who say, “this isn’t bullying because the target is successful, naïve, liberal, conservative, religious, atheist, feminist, anti-feminist, made a typo, got a fact wrong, used irony, wrote in a genre I disapprove of…and the old faithful, ‘Mo-o-o-m, she started it!'” need to grow up.

There is no excuse for doing evil stuff. Stop it.

Of course the hive mind does not always do evil. As Margaret Mead said: “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world.”

But it needs a corollary: “Never doubt that a small group of misguided citizens can devolve into a mindless, bloodthirsty mob.”

Angry Mobs are High on their Own Rage

When you become part of the hive mind, you become as unreasoning as a swarm of bees.

Steve Muto Bully Hive Mentality - Drunk Bees

Drunk bees.

Angry people actually get high on their own rage. Anger management specialists tell us that self-righteous rage can trigger brain chemicals that mimic the high of cocaine. And it’s just as addictive.

A hive mind drunk on anger is unable to think or learn. It is intolerant of any divergence from the hive’s orthodoxy and outraged by humor, whimsy, irony, or fantasy.

All non-literal speech goes over its buzzy little head.

In fact, the hive mind often feels the need to thwart artistic expression of any kind, as we can see with the religious-fanatic hive destroying ancient art in the Middle East.

The dangers of the hive mind are not unique to the Internet age, of course. Humans have been whipped into cruel frenzies by stupid ideas ever since Zog convinced the tribe that throwing Gog into the smoking volcano would keep it from erupting.

Euripides explored the phenomenon in 405 BC when he wrote the Bacchae —in which a band of women, under the spell of an angry Dionysis, rip their king to pieces with their bare hands, thinking he’s a wild beast.

Wily politicians have always known how to use mob behavior to their advantage. Designating a scapegoat/enemy and lying to the masses about the danger they pose is the power-play of choice for most tyrannical regimes.

So it is for Steve and Kelly Muto.

Grandiose Narcissists Can’t Stop Talking About Their Perfect Worlds

The classic grandiose narcissists performs at center stage in the spotlight. (This post refers to male and female narcissists.) He/she demands your total unblinking attention. I recall a number of these individuals whom I have known personally and professionally. They grab the psychological space in a room. They regal us with stories of their perfect lives.

How often have you been psychologically accosted by a narcissistic personality? They won’t leave you alone. They are filled with stories of their latest triumphs. They talk about their superior family members who are the highest academic and professional achievers. Everyone that provides them with narcissistic supply is extraordinary not because they are fine human beings but because they have gone to the right schools, have obtained superlative grades, have high graduate degrees and multiple offers in professional career positions that will pay them extraordinary salaries. I am not disparaging those who achieve in these ways. I applaud those who succeed in these arenas. They are most often fine people.

The point is that the narcissist must tell these stories in order to make him look better than anyone else. He or she is not only bragging about his own accomplishments but extends them to family members who then become a part of his narcissistic domain of adulation and praise. When I have tried to actually have a conversation with these narcissists it is as if they cannot hear you. They don’t acknowledge anything that you are saying. You might as well not be there. You could nave placed a cardboard cutout of yourself in place and left. There is no genuine interaction with narcissists. They give speeches, make grandiose comments, and won’t stop the mindless chatter.

You want to get away from them. You make the decision to excuse yourself and some of them follow you with their “I have a perfect life” rant. Learn to leave the scene early. It is not worth your time and attempts at listening or trying to be heard to remain in these circumstances. The narcissist is always there for his close-up. For him, you are part of the inanimate stage set.

It is still remarkable to watch narcissists and recognize each time how completely wrapped up in themselves they are. They carry with them load upon load of narcissistic supplies–the praise of others, the accomplishments of family members, the constant name-dropping, comments about their extraordinary professional and personal achievements, etc.

I think about those who are married to one of these individuals and cringe at what they have to hear every single day. It is exhausting. Besides the braggadocio the narcissist is highly critical and demeaning to those closest to him. He picks away at the slightest mistake and manufactures reasons for disdaining you out of whole cloth. These are bald lies that the narcissist twists into his “truth” about you and your innumerable shortcomings and poor character traits. Remember that these cruel pronouncements are psychological projections and have nothing to do with your character or capabilities at all.

Study the narcissistic personality in-depth so that you are highly informed. Practice self care. Get the sleep, exercise, nourishment and respite that you need and deserve. Use your creativity gifts and discover others that have been hidden as a result of being involved with the narcissist.

If you are married to a narcissist you may decide that you can no longer live with this person who is always giving speeches to self and throwing you crumbs and volleys of criticisms. Make a plan that works for you. Talk to a few friends whom you trust and are available to listen with empathy. In some cases meeting with an excellent therapist can be helpful. Pay close attention to your intuition. It is always accurate and reveals the truth.

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Narcissist Check List – Read it Now!

You probably know someone, after reading the Narcissist Check List, that will meet some, most, or all of the Criteria on this list.
The Muto Family has a number of members that this could be their manifesto.

Steve Muto Bully - The Scapegoat Dynamic

Narcissist Check List:

  1. Two faced, putting friends and family down behind their backs.
  2. Tendency to blame their lack of success and failures on others.
  3. Acts different in public than in private.
  4. Irresponsible and unreliable
  5. Arrogant, acts superior to people close to them.
  6. Lives in a fantasy world which may include porn, flirting, affairs and dreams of unlimited success and fame.
  7. Addicted to his fantasy oriented behavior.
  8. Will lie and distort facts and change events to suit their own agenda.
  9. Be irresponsible with money. Continue reading

Murder on your mind?

Looks like Steve and Kelly have a little Murder on their minds…

Steve Muto Big Kahuna Bully - Pulp Fiction Scene Reference

Yeah Kelly, OMG is right.  BigKahunaBully agrees with Sam.


Steve Muto Bully - Murder on my Mind Wine

After months of never ending family bullying Steve finally reveals his true feelings.  “Murder on my Mind?”  Are you serious?  Let’s all remember this was over a family vacation.  Shari Romano O’Weger you’re an enabler of these bully’s, I would suggest for your own reputation you quit your online support of active Serial Family Bullying.

To Chrisite Quigly, mind your own business, your only feeding the beast.  Secondary Bully’s are Bully’s too, you only know Kelly’s side of the story.  Your encouragement to a Bully is their Fuel.

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Bullying In Families Is More Covert

Sometimes bullying, especially in families, is more covert.

If you call out an adult bully, they reply with incredulity, “I was just asking questions! I can’t believe you took it that way,” putting the blame back on you. And then you start to wonder if you’re the crazy one. Yet even if you turn yourself inside out to try to please the bully, you never will, because bullies thrive on the feeling of instilling fear. Meet one demand and they’ll come up with another.

Steve Muto Bully - His Fault, Her Fault, Their Fault, Not Me

Remember that the intimidation treatment is not your fault. Everyone is responsible for how they choose to treat others. This can be a lot easier said than done. Particularly if the bully has aroused strong feelings of anger in you. However, a reaction such as this will only prove to the bully that he/she has succeeded in getting to you – which is what they want. Bullies feed off negative emotions, because deep down in some way they feel inferior/insecure about themselves and it’s only by making others feel bad that they can raise their self-esteem. Reacting to a bully in this kind of way is likely to only further encourage and possibly worsen their unwanted behavior towards you. The adult bully is a coward. Continue reading

5 Ways Drivers Can Protect Themselves Against Bully Truckers

By on February 10, 2014

truck-accident-lawyerAccidents between tractor trailers and passenger vehicles are on the rise and so are injuries and fatalities connected with these crashes.

Since many businesses depend on trucking companies to deliver their merchandise to customers, truckers face deadlines for hauling cargo to specific destinations. While most truckers follow the rules of the road in the course of their job, some exhibit bad driving behavior and pose dangerous risks on the highway.

According to statistics from the Federal Motor Carrier Safety Administration (FMCSA), the governmental agency that oversees the nation’s trucking industry, the number of fatal traffic crashes in which large trucks were involved was 3,341 in 2011. This was seventy more fatalities than the previous year. The number of injuries resulting from truck crashes was 60,000 in 2011, 4,000 more than the previous year.

The March 2013 report of the FMCSA also reflected a rise in the number of traffic crash victims. In 2011, 88,000 people were injured in traffic crashes involving large trucks. This is 8,000 more than the year before.

Other FMCSA studies show that passenger car drivers were at fault for crashes more often than truckers. On the other hand, truck driver fatigue and speeding were also factors in accidents involving large trucks.

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15 Reasons Why You Are The Most Annoying Person On Facebook

You probably have thought of at least one person when you saw the name of this list; it’s that person, who no matter how much you love him or her or how great of a friend he or she can be in real life, he or she is without a doubt, the most annoying person on your Facebook news feed. Check out the list of 15 ways to tell if someone is insufferably bad at Facebook.

Oh, and you may want to make sure that somehow, that annoying friend of yours takes a look at this, too. Think of it as your good deed of the day.

Hopefully, you won’t have to deal with some of these annoying things any longer and hopefully, he or she gets a clue.

1. You Can’t Get Enough Of Yourself-ie

You don’t know why, but you just can’t get enough of yourself! I mean, omg, you look so damn good right now, the rest of the world really should see this!
So, you take a selfie in your car… scantily clad in a mirror… walking the dog… in a bathtub… trying on a new outfit at the store… we get it. You love yourself. You love yourself so damn much. Well, every time you show us how much you love yourself, we hate you just a little bit more.

2. Newsflash: We All Know Your Life Isn’t So Great

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The Narcissist Defined

We’ve all met one at some point. A man or woman who seems to believe they are the center of the universe. Arrogant, callous and manipulative, they force the world around them to accommodate this belief.

Self-important and conceited, the narcissist exaggerates accomplishments, requires endless praise, and has an uncanny ability to quash the achievements of others. They lack empathy and don’t seem aware that you are a whole person with your own needs. In fact, you’re only a useful tool, something to extract admiration from. The narcissist believes they’re entitled to everything, including your time, your emotions and your self-esteem.

The dramatic attempts to hold your attention make your life seem tragic and fraught with anxiety. Being perpetually cut down so that the narcissist can be “better than,” destroys self-confidence and eventually leads you down a spiral of gloom.

I remember when I realized I was dealing with a narcissist. I remember receiving a beautiful embossed card one December that simply read “Joy.” I put it on my mantle for a few days before I really thought about that word. I felt so disconnected from it. What’s joy? Then I found myself wondering:
When did I get so negative?
Why am I always so down on myself?
When are things going to seem good? Or at least okay? I feel like I’m always one minute from tragedy.
Why do I feel so guilty every time I feel the least bit happy?

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Hypocrite Steve Muto

Hypocrite Steve Muto

Hypocrite Steve Muto is beyond just your average hypocrite.
Combine that with severe case of narcissism and you have the makings for a real winner!

Here a just a few examples of the outlandish hypocrisy of a social media drama queen, Steve Muto & Friends!

Steve Muto Bully - Hypocrisy involves the deception of others and is thus a lie.

Steve Muto Bully Pretends to Care

Isn’t this just a sweet sentiment.  Same day, Steve Muto is posting Bully Nastygrams and his Hawaii Countdown all over the internet.

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13th Attack-Defence Strategy: Claim the Part of the Victim

This is an excerpt from a great online resource on Serial Family Bullying: “Family Bully Exposed”

13th Attack-Defence Strategy: Claim the Part of the Victim (Steve Muto is straddling many stages of the Attack-Defense-Strategy, but his BigKahunaBully website is proof of the following…)

Following closely after ‘feigned humility’, the Attack-Defence is complete. The Family Serial Bully will have successfully redefined themselves as the victim who requires more protection, attention, understanding and forgiveness than their Target(s). The same rights that go with being the ‘favored one’. If even one Ally is willing to allow the Family Serial Bully this position, the FSB will continue to bully for more control and proof of their favored position in the family.

In so doing, the Family Serial Bully has reduced themselves to the two year old level when they were recognized as the favored child who, either because of their temperament or health demanded the spotlight. They have successfully re-defined their adult persona has needing the same preferred attention as a toddler, for reasons of temperament, health or concocted problems.

To maintain these privileges the Family Serial Bully works hard to maintain their problems, to concoct more if necessary and to deal harshly with anyone trying to clear matters or solve their problems for them. Allies are expected to acknowledge the Family Serial Bully problems, offer condolences, apologies and atonement for the FSB’s problems, but attempts they make to solve these problems are thwarted by the FSB.

So the FSB’s problems, used to retain attention and forgiveness are never resolved and sincere apologies, sympathy, atonement, and solutions for their problems only serve to irritate and antagonize the FSB. Targets will continue to find problems that appeared resolved days, week, months, even years ago pop up like new again and again.

Compassionate and caring by nature, Allies may believe it costs the family nothing to simply allow for the FSB’s account of history, as long as the rest of the family knows they don’t ‘really believe it’. But when one chooses not to consistently challenge the truth behind an FSB’s lies one is also choosing to allow the slander behind the lies to go unchallenged, and send the unintended, but clear, message that the FSB’s pretence of suffering supersedes the real suffering of their Target(s). It may not overtly cost an Ally, but it dearly costs the Target(s) slandered by the FSB’s claims of victim hood.

Allies are forced to decide with whom they will ally. No action is the action that not only protects the FSB but keeps their Target(s) exposed.

Kelly Muto – Selfie Obsessed Narcissist? You Decide.

Unadulterated Narcissism on display, just a few of the many, many, many “Kelly Muto Selfies.”

Kelly Muto Self Obsorbed Bitch

Posted on Facebook, for the “Me” generation to ignore.


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Steve’s Over-the-Top Countdown

Steve’s Over-the-Top Cursed Hawaiian Vacation “Countdown” has to go down as one of the most ridiculous displays of narcissism ever witnessed.

The time and energy it took to try prove something to everyone, what we don’t know, but it is quite a body of work when you assemble it all into a single list.  This took hours mind you.  By the way, he did all of with the knowledge of having destroyed the relationships and family vacation that had been worked on so hard by other members of his family.

Marvel at the narcissism on display.  Just take a look at a few of these, oh 90 or so, passive aggressive, narcissistic Bully posts.
Keep in mind these were done a day at time, day, after day, after day, after day… Sick? You decide.

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The Inevitability of Fractured Sibling Relationships in Dysfunctional Families

Recently, I found myself sitting with a patient Elsa, who was crying inconsolably in my office. It turns out that her sister had stolen her inheritance out from under her. It wasn’t the loss of the money that was making her feel so devastated, though; it was the shocking betrayal by her only sibling.

Elsa’s sister Joyce had gotten their dying mother to change her will at the last minute, leaving everything to her. Their mother had been ill for a long time and Joyce had found a way to convince her that Joyce and not Elsa was the daughter who really needed and deserved the substantial inheritance.

During our session Elsa kept repeating, over and over, “I don’t understand how she could have done this. I don’t understand why!” Although they had never been close and in fact, had only seen each-other at family gatherings for the past several years, Elsa didn’t think that there was any animosity between them; certainly not enough to cause Joyce to do such an awful thing.

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Steve and Kelly Dental News?

Everyone on Facebook must be curious about the latest Dental News from the Muto’s judging by the number of posts related to dentistry.  Tune in for narcissistic updates of things no one actually cares about but get thrown up on Facebook anyway.

Look at my perty smile Kells!  Come ‘ear give me a big ‘ole smooch.

Steve Muto Sick Puppy Bully

 

Dumbasses

Snaggle Tooth

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Steve Muto Bully with no Teeth

Ever heard of a simple toothbrush?

Max Rub It In Your Face

Steve and Kelly Muto thought they were so cute and funny making this their Facebook Profile Picture.
It’s only been up like this for mmm, 6 MONTHS.  Nah, no shove it their noses it here.

Quite an attractive look for the both of them!

Steve and Kelly Muto - Hyenas Mating

You Decide.

Act Like a Fool – Bully Steve Muto

Steve Muto and Wife, Kelly Muto Dressing Up?

Anyone else thinking what we’re thinking?

Steve Muto wouldn’t have been caught dead in a costume like these.
Ah, Married Life…

Steve Muto and Kelly Muto Acting Like Fools

“Oh, Your Such an Animal Steve.”  “You big Bully you…”


Steve Muto Bully, Kelly Muto Bully - Kelly Dressing Steve like a Doll


Steve Muto Bully, Kelly Muto Bully Christmas

“Its the most wonderful time of the year?” NO FAMILY, NO ONE CARES ABOUT BULLY Christmas.
What a cheery Holiday, the last, before gas-lighting the family for the NEW YEAR and FOREVER!


 Steve Muto Looking Like a Fool

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